So here is my question to you - can you fake your feelings? Can you intentionally keep your feelings underneath the surface? Pretend like everything is just ok?
Goodness, I can't. And honestly, I'm kinda glad that I can't. I do have the worst poker face and I am not an exceptionally good liar (much to Rich's glee!). I've been told multiple times that my face is a dead give away which of course I sometimes wish wasn't the case! But you know, it's who I am and given that it's not such a terrible trait, it's not something that I am overly concerned about.
I guess that I am curious about people who can so easily hide their feelings from others. So easily that it glides like honey. I hope I'm not offending anybody who fits in to this category. And let me say that I do see this as a strength in certain circumstances. I just see it used in scenarios where I wish people would be authentic in the moment. Authentic to themselves. Authentic to those around them. Anything less, and I'm cautious. I sometimes wish folks would just cut the baloney. And sometimes I think being less than authentic leads people to then talk about others behind their backs and that's never a good thing. That's one of my biggest pet peeves and although I'm no saint, I'm proud to say that I try really hard not to do this because it can just be so hurtful.
Oh gosh, I am sooooooo on my high horse right now, huh? Garghhhhh, I should probably jump off the horse and stop for now. I know that I shouldn't sit here and preach. That's not my intention. Like I said, I'm not a saint. I guess I am talking out loud through this whole idea of being true to who you are. I think it's super important, don't you?
(Sorry, I couldn't resist the picture. I found it on photobucket and loved it)
(the real question is....am I the dog or the horse?? haha!!)
~kavita
6 comments:
I wish I couldn't hide my feelings so well. But during the last 12 month or so, its been a mixed blessing.
Will says he never knows what I am thinking because I am blank, or he thinks I am (or look) angry all of the time. I don't show everything on my face. But I think this is a Mormon thing. You are supposed to act like nothing bothers you, supposed to be happy all of the time. I don't fake happy very well. But I fake indifference.
I want to be more open. Its hard to break a 30 year old habit.
it's funny how the environment we grow up in shapes how we act and feel as adults. some of it's nature and then there's a lot that can be attributed to nurture. thank you for sharing your insight Helena. i do wish at times that i could hide my feelings - it would help when i'm trying to pick my battles with my Richie! sounds like if we molded ourselves together, we would both be happy. i'm sorry that this year has sucked for you (and understandably so). i'm glad that you've had your blog to unbottle yourself at times and even though i don't always know how to respond i learn from your incredibly sincere posts.
I am a total open book, couldn't possibly hide my feelings if I tried with all my might. (But you know that about me anyway. :) I hated this as a younger person when I wanted so much to be cool, but now, well it's not so bad. At least people know where they stand, most of the time. Great question!
I think I'm a pretty forthright person but I can be subtle (I think) when a situation calls for it. If I can save someone embarrassment or sadness by withholding my own opinions I will likely do so UNLESS a greater purpose will be served by letting fly. And then lookout baby!
Love this post topic. Thanks for making me think!
Hugs,
Jan
Hey Mo - I am quite like you on this topic! Almost identical in fact. :) love ya!
Jan - you made me think too. i guess i need to clarify that i'm talking about the ability to be deliberately in-authentic (word?) because of a fear of what could happen when one is being totally real. i hope that makes sense.
I have the same problem! I can't lie if my life depended on it. My sister was always the champion liar, and to tell the truth, I'm okay with not being all that great at it. Your posts are so thought provoking! I love it!
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