Soooo not used to that word as yet! I've been caught like a kid in the cookie dough still calling Rich 'my boyfriend'. There's a certain comfort to that word that is hard to let go of. But don't worry, the word fiance will start to rock and roll of my tongue fairly soon, I'm sure!
The past couple of days have been lots of fun. I'm still making phone calls to let people know via the phone but holy crap, there's a lot of you out there! Rich was a trooper and made all of his phone calls by end of Sunday. Me on the other hand? I was napping as my Mum puts it 'with my bum up'. I guess I'm more of a slacker! I'm slowly yet surely making my way through the phone book. I apologize if you have found out via my blog or facebook instead of via the phone.
Both Rich and I went back to work on Monday. Right now is a bit of a stressful time but being engaged just seems to make everything stressful go away! I'm not one to go bouncing through the hallways exclaiming my good news. I would say that I like to keep things fairly private. It's been fun to individually let my coworkers know and have them join in my excitement!
Do I feel different? Well I've got to say yes. It's hard to put in words and hopefully some of you can help me out here. I tried to describe it to my sister on the phone the other day. Being engaged is a triumphant feeling - it only further confirms our commitment to each other in such a beautiful way. It's so awesome to truly feel that somebody will always...always... have my back...will always be there no matter what. I always knew that Rich and I were solid but being engaged, it's just an affirmation of that. It feels fantastic and is also super re-assuring in some kind of way too. We're still the same Kavita and Rich and we've always been a team but I feel like we've just been promoted to 'super-team'.
And being engaged also makes me realize that I am going to be a wife. Bahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! Ok, sorry, just had a mini-freak-out over the word 'wife'. Seriously - this is all new lingo to me. Wow.
Ok so where was I? Something about being a wife? :) Yes a wife. It makes me realize that I will have responsibilities as a wife. I'm not talking laundry and taking out the trash (Rich, that comment is directed at you). I'm talking about taking care of Rich, taking care of the dogs, keeping the house intact, dropping everything in the split of a hair (or whatever that phrase is) to be there for Rich if he needs me and even potentially being a Mom. Apart from that last one - phew - these are all things that I do now but it's just a different feeling now that we're engaged. It's a commitment - one that I'm very VERY thrilled about.
Since there are those that are asking I'll let you know that we don't know as yet the location or date or any of that jazz. Right now I'm hoping that we can just enjoy this moment. Enjoy being engaged, enjoy the warm buzz, the gentle rocking that this rocking chair brings...just...en-joy. We have plenty of time to plan and right now there is no rush.
BUT...I will say that if you know a Rabbi that will marry a Catholic and a Priest that will marry a Jew, please send me an email. :)
4 comments:
I so remember feeling as you do and wondering how I would ever get used to saying "this is my fiance/ husband!" It is such a great feeling, very exciting.
Hi Bodaat, just want to say congratulations to you and Rich and hope that you have a really wonderful life together.
It is almos 33 years ago that my wife and I got engaged and 10 weeks later were married - I would not change these years for anything.
Oh and as for who does what about the house, she used to mow the lawns and I would make the kids birthday cakes :)
Hope the two of you have a really wonderful Christmas and New year,
You could have both a Rabbi and a priest at your wedding... I think I have seen that before....??? Yes it is an exciting feeling but also a little ahhhhh too! Enjoy and don't rush we had children right away and not that I would change anything it would have been nice to have had a little more time to enjoy just the two of us!
Oh and don't follow in my footsteps... this is my second marriage :) Just stick to one :)
M - thank you! I'm starting to say fiance...slowly. :)
Max - I love your blog. Thank you for the well wishes and your subtle advice!
Maria - Definitely no kids for a couple years...althought if it happens it wouldn't be the worst thing. :)
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